Monday, September 29, 2008
Sacred Question
Think of a negative event that has happened to you in the last year and re-frame it to a positive.
Change the Way You Explain Your Life and Your Life Changes
One of my favorite psychology writers is Dr. Martin Seligman of the Positive Psychology movement. This movement is about looking at what's right with people rather than what's wrong with them. One of Seligman's early books was on Learned Optimism. His theis is that even if you are a born pessimist and unfornutantly some people are, you can learn to be more optimistic just by changing how you think about things and especially how you "explain" what happens to you and the world around you. He calls it explanatory style.
Explanatory Style - Explained
‘Explanatory style’ or ‘attributional style’ refers to how people explain the events of their lives. There are three facets of how people can explain a situation. This can influence whether they lean toward being optimists or pessimists:
Stable vs. Unstable: Can time change things, or do things stay the same regardless of time?
Global vs. Local: Is a situation a reflection of just one part of your life, or your life as a whole?
Internal vs. External: Do you feel events are caused by you or by an outside force?
Realists see things relatively clearly, but most of us aren’t realists. Most of us, to a degree, attribute the events in our lives optimistically or pessimistically. The pattern looks like this:
Optimists
Optimists explain positive events as having happened because of them (internal). They also see them as evidence that more positive things will happen in the future (stable), and in other areas of their lives (global). Conversely, they see negative events as not being their fault (external). They also see them as being flukes (isolated) that have nothing to do with other areas of their lives or future events (local).
For example, if an optimist gets a promotion, she will likely believe it’s because she’s good at her job and will receive more benefits and promotion in the future. If she’s passed over for the promotion, it’s likely because she was having an off-month because of extenuating circumstances, but will do better in the future.
Pessimists
Pessimists think in the opposite way. They believe that negative events are caused by them (internal). They believe that one mistake means more will come (stable), and mistakes in other areas of life are inevitable (global), because they are the cause. They see positive events as flukes (local) that are caused by things outside their control (external) and probably won’t happen again (unstable).
A pessimist would see a promotion as a lucky event that probably won’t happen again, and may even worry that she’ll now be under more scrutiny. Being passed over for promotion would probably be explained as not being skilled enough. She'd therefore expect to be passed over again.
What This Means
Understandably, if you’re an optimist, this bodes well for your future. Negative events are more likely to roll off of your back, but positive events affirm your belief in yourself, your ability to make good things happen now and in the future, and in the goodness of life.
Fortunately for pessimists and realists, these patterns of thinking can be learned to a degree (though we tend to be mostly predisposed to our patterns of thinking.) Using a practice called ‘cognitive restructuring,' you can help yourself and others become more optimistic by consciously challenging negative, self-limiting thinking and replacing it with more optimistic thought patterns.
So the next time something happens to you that could be "explained" in a negative or pessimistic way, think about how you might explain it in a positive way. Use the old, Fake it till you make it concept even if at first you don't think this will work - by the way, that lasts is a typical pesssimistic outlook.
In the psychology business we call this re-framing - so take some negative event and explain it to yourself in a positive way. For example, the government is about to do a 700 billion dollar bailout of Wall Street - Well, that could certainly be looked at in a negative way - but how about seeing it as a positive in that we are in an election year and all eyes are on this problem and the candidates are going to work overtime to make sure this kind of thing does not happen again, so change will happen, new regulations will be put in place and the craziness that has been going on will stop or at least slow down - sometimes you have to have a negative before a positive can be instituted but for those who think in positive ways, the crisis is seen as an opportunity and not the beginning of a long depression. In fact, as you listen to the debates and ads for the candidates see if you can pick out the optimistic ones from the doom and gloom ones and remember optimists have better presents and futures.
Remember to vote! Blessings, Lorraine
Explanatory Style - Explained
‘Explanatory style’ or ‘attributional style’ refers to how people explain the events of their lives. There are three facets of how people can explain a situation. This can influence whether they lean toward being optimists or pessimists:
Stable vs. Unstable: Can time change things, or do things stay the same regardless of time?
Global vs. Local: Is a situation a reflection of just one part of your life, or your life as a whole?
Internal vs. External: Do you feel events are caused by you or by an outside force?
Realists see things relatively clearly, but most of us aren’t realists. Most of us, to a degree, attribute the events in our lives optimistically or pessimistically. The pattern looks like this:
Optimists
Optimists explain positive events as having happened because of them (internal). They also see them as evidence that more positive things will happen in the future (stable), and in other areas of their lives (global). Conversely, they see negative events as not being their fault (external). They also see them as being flukes (isolated) that have nothing to do with other areas of their lives or future events (local).
For example, if an optimist gets a promotion, she will likely believe it’s because she’s good at her job and will receive more benefits and promotion in the future. If she’s passed over for the promotion, it’s likely because she was having an off-month because of extenuating circumstances, but will do better in the future.
Pessimists
Pessimists think in the opposite way. They believe that negative events are caused by them (internal). They believe that one mistake means more will come (stable), and mistakes in other areas of life are inevitable (global), because they are the cause. They see positive events as flukes (local) that are caused by things outside their control (external) and probably won’t happen again (unstable).
A pessimist would see a promotion as a lucky event that probably won’t happen again, and may even worry that she’ll now be under more scrutiny. Being passed over for promotion would probably be explained as not being skilled enough. She'd therefore expect to be passed over again.
What This Means
Understandably, if you’re an optimist, this bodes well for your future. Negative events are more likely to roll off of your back, but positive events affirm your belief in yourself, your ability to make good things happen now and in the future, and in the goodness of life.
Fortunately for pessimists and realists, these patterns of thinking can be learned to a degree (though we tend to be mostly predisposed to our patterns of thinking.) Using a practice called ‘cognitive restructuring,' you can help yourself and others become more optimistic by consciously challenging negative, self-limiting thinking and replacing it with more optimistic thought patterns.
So the next time something happens to you that could be "explained" in a negative or pessimistic way, think about how you might explain it in a positive way. Use the old, Fake it till you make it concept even if at first you don't think this will work - by the way, that lasts is a typical pesssimistic outlook.
In the psychology business we call this re-framing - so take some negative event and explain it to yourself in a positive way. For example, the government is about to do a 700 billion dollar bailout of Wall Street - Well, that could certainly be looked at in a negative way - but how about seeing it as a positive in that we are in an election year and all eyes are on this problem and the candidates are going to work overtime to make sure this kind of thing does not happen again, so change will happen, new regulations will be put in place and the craziness that has been going on will stop or at least slow down - sometimes you have to have a negative before a positive can be instituted but for those who think in positive ways, the crisis is seen as an opportunity and not the beginning of a long depression. In fact, as you listen to the debates and ads for the candidates see if you can pick out the optimistic ones from the doom and gloom ones and remember optimists have better presents and futures.
Remember to vote! Blessings, Lorraine
Monday, September 22, 2008
Saccred Question
Who in your past are you most grateful to and why? Have you really thanked them for thier contribution to your life?
Gratitude Visit
Today's post comes from Professor Martin Seligman, PH.D of the University of Pennsylvania, he is the author of Authentic Happiness a book that changed the way I looked at my life and gave me a sense of how I could change things for the better, for myself and for my coaching and psychotherapy clients. I took Dr. Seligman's Authentic Happiness Coaching class - a six-month long twice-weekly class done via telephone with 300 other students. It was a wonderful class and I loved everything I learned in it and use it everyday in my life and my work.
One of the main concepts of this class is the idea of learned optimism, which is also the title of one of Seligman’s other books. A tenant of optimism is gratitude. If we are not grateful for what we have, who we are and what comes our way, then it will be hard for us to be happy. I see this every day in my practice - people come to me complaining about what isn't right in their lives.
At our first meeting I ask them to make a list of what is right in their life and to begin a program of focusing on the good and not the bad. This is not to say there are not difficulties, problems, pain and sorrow in the lives of those who seek out counseling, of course there is or they would have no reason to seek out my services. But what I often find with people is that this non-grateful, down in the mouth way of living and thinking is habitual. In many cases, even when things are going well they either take it for granted or they say yeah, but it won't be long until something bad happens. They focus on the negative and in the process bring more towards them.
Today I am sharing an idea that will bring gratitude into your consciousness and start a process of thinking in a grateful way about your life. This exercise is called a Gratitude Visit.
Select one important person from your past who has made a major positive difference in your life and to whom you have never fully expressed your thanks.
Choose someone who is still alive and accessible to you, preferably someone who lives in the same city as you.
Write your testimonial just long enough to cover one laminated page. Take your time composing this – several weeks if required.
Invite that person to your home or travel to that person’s home. It is important that you do this face to face, not just in writing or on the phone. Do not tell the person the purpose of the visit in advance.
Bring a laminated version of your testimonial with you as a gift. Read your testimonial aloud slowly, with expression and eye contact. Then let the other person react unhurriedly. Reminisce together about the concrete events that make this person so important to you.
I did this exercise with my ex husband several years after we were divorced. I had dealt with the pain of the divorce and felt that he had too - we were at a point where I knew this would not open a can of worms and cause any negative fall out. I realized that I was grateful to him for many, many things including being a great father, provider and all round good guy so I wrote him my gratitude letter and went over to his house and read it to him. Of course it made me cry but it was a freeing experience.
It opened up our relationship as parents and members of a family. We created a family when we had children and now that they are grown we are still in that family. We have three grandchildren and see each other at family events all the time. Now instead of feeling uncomfortable and sometimes tense at these gatherings I feel relaxed and like I am with family and I am - the vibe between us is like an uncle or even a brother - we're family and we appreciate each other - we even count on each other for things without there being any hidden agendas about getting back together or being upset with each other.
Now you don't have to pick an ex husband to do your gratitude letter with - make it someone that you simply want to thank for their kindness, generosity, friendship or help. We all have people like this so give it some thought and let me know how it goes.
Blessings, Lorraine
One of the main concepts of this class is the idea of learned optimism, which is also the title of one of Seligman’s other books. A tenant of optimism is gratitude. If we are not grateful for what we have, who we are and what comes our way, then it will be hard for us to be happy. I see this every day in my practice - people come to me complaining about what isn't right in their lives.
At our first meeting I ask them to make a list of what is right in their life and to begin a program of focusing on the good and not the bad. This is not to say there are not difficulties, problems, pain and sorrow in the lives of those who seek out counseling, of course there is or they would have no reason to seek out my services. But what I often find with people is that this non-grateful, down in the mouth way of living and thinking is habitual. In many cases, even when things are going well they either take it for granted or they say yeah, but it won't be long until something bad happens. They focus on the negative and in the process bring more towards them.
Today I am sharing an idea that will bring gratitude into your consciousness and start a process of thinking in a grateful way about your life. This exercise is called a Gratitude Visit.
Select one important person from your past who has made a major positive difference in your life and to whom you have never fully expressed your thanks.
Choose someone who is still alive and accessible to you, preferably someone who lives in the same city as you.
Write your testimonial just long enough to cover one laminated page. Take your time composing this – several weeks if required.
Invite that person to your home or travel to that person’s home. It is important that you do this face to face, not just in writing or on the phone. Do not tell the person the purpose of the visit in advance.
Bring a laminated version of your testimonial with you as a gift. Read your testimonial aloud slowly, with expression and eye contact. Then let the other person react unhurriedly. Reminisce together about the concrete events that make this person so important to you.
I did this exercise with my ex husband several years after we were divorced. I had dealt with the pain of the divorce and felt that he had too - we were at a point where I knew this would not open a can of worms and cause any negative fall out. I realized that I was grateful to him for many, many things including being a great father, provider and all round good guy so I wrote him my gratitude letter and went over to his house and read it to him. Of course it made me cry but it was a freeing experience.
It opened up our relationship as parents and members of a family. We created a family when we had children and now that they are grown we are still in that family. We have three grandchildren and see each other at family events all the time. Now instead of feeling uncomfortable and sometimes tense at these gatherings I feel relaxed and like I am with family and I am - the vibe between us is like an uncle or even a brother - we're family and we appreciate each other - we even count on each other for things without there being any hidden agendas about getting back together or being upset with each other.
Now you don't have to pick an ex husband to do your gratitude letter with - make it someone that you simply want to thank for their kindness, generosity, friendship or help. We all have people like this so give it some thought and let me know how it goes.
Blessings, Lorraine
Monday, September 15, 2008
Sacred Question
When darkness descends what do you do to pull yourself out and bring lightness back to your world?
Turning Darkness into Light
Ah, Fall...the weather turns crisp, the leaves begin to change color, the nights are cool and for some of us it's a time of new beginnings. I always think of Fall as the beginning of a new year. I'm sure this comes from when I was a kid and school started in September. I would get new clothes, shiny new school supplies and a new teacher. I'd learn new subjects and meet new friends. I loved it. For me Fall was like the line from that old Simon and Garfunkle song, "..kicking down the cobble stones and feeling groovy..." I would walk home from school kicking up the fallen leaves and feeling, well, groovy...life was indeed, good.
But now that I'm a little older, okay, a lot older, I don't have quite the same great feeling about Fall as I did then. As an adult, Fall does not automatically announce new beginnings. Mostly what it announces is the start of darkness - I know that sounds pretty ominous but what I have found is that it's the lack of light that causes all the trouble. You see in the summer we get an average of about 13 hours of daily sunlight available to us - if we get up at 7am and it doesn't get dark until 8pm - that's thirteen hours of sunlight, but in the winter with Day Light Savings time we get about four hours less because by 5pm it's pretty dark. This causes some of us to get the blues - the winter blues.
So what does this have to do with calling? Well, if one is down in the dumps and feeling like a bear wanting to hibernate it's hard to think about, much less do anything about our calling. What we have to do is take action to keep our momentum from the summer months. I have come up with some ideas to keep us upbeat and positive and therefore open to our calling.
Light Therapy - If, like me you think lack of light is a problem for you then build or buy yourself a light therapy box. There are many sources available on the Internet - just put SAD light therapy in your browser and go from there.
For Stress Relief - Use Breathing as a way to release the stress. Take a deep breath – in fact take 5-10 separate deep breaths and as you take each one hold it in to the count of ten and let it out slowly.
Meditate – People who meditate tend to be more positive/serene that those who don’t.
Re-Frame your situation – tell yourself “This too shall pass.” Or marshal evidence that your pessimistic thoughts are just that, you thinking the worst – re-frame it to you thinking the best.
Visualize what you really want in this situation – if you can, find a picture and post it near you with the new way you want things.
Distract yourself – go do something else – do a mindless chore or simply take a break - read a really good book that is uplifting or funny or that takes you to a better place.
Create a Joy Basket – put all kinds of things in it such as quotes that inspire you, books that are uplifting, a list of activities you like to do, some chocolate, a tea bag to remind yourself to make yourself a cup of tea. Pictures of loved ones or things that you love such as the ocean or the mountains or your favorite animal.
Go for a walk in nature.
Remember some good news even if it was a long time ago – try to get that feeling back when you did something you really loved doing or something special you accomplished.
Call a friend and ask them what good thing has happened to them lately – joy is contagious but so is negativity – no pity parties.
Go to a funny or romantic or action movie – go with a friend or go alone – enjoy your independence.
Wear a rubber band around your wrist and when you start the negative self talk snap it back – this will snap you back into your true self which is always positive and seeking authentic happiness.
Give thanks everyday for the good in your life – do the Three Blessings Exercise by writing down in a journal or little notebook what you felt blessed with that day.
Pay attention to your dreams and write down in a little notebook any ones that seem related to your calling.
Use the winter months to grow and heal. If you don't feel this is the time to actually answer your soul's call then begin a program to heal old wounds and clean out any psychic closets that are filled with oudated ideas, old beliefs that no longer work or anything esle that limits you.
Learn something new - as we did in our school years - something related to our calling. For example, since writing is my calling I am using this winter to learn everything I can about book publishing so that in the Spring when my book is finished I'll be ready for the next steps in the process.
With these ideas we can turn a potentially dark time into a time of light and energy, maybe not the same energy some of us have in Spring and Summer but productive energy none the less. Let me know how you do with these and if you have others you'd like to share, I'd love to learn about them.
Blessings, Lorraine
But now that I'm a little older, okay, a lot older, I don't have quite the same great feeling about Fall as I did then. As an adult, Fall does not automatically announce new beginnings. Mostly what it announces is the start of darkness - I know that sounds pretty ominous but what I have found is that it's the lack of light that causes all the trouble. You see in the summer we get an average of about 13 hours of daily sunlight available to us - if we get up at 7am and it doesn't get dark until 8pm - that's thirteen hours of sunlight, but in the winter with Day Light Savings time we get about four hours less because by 5pm it's pretty dark. This causes some of us to get the blues - the winter blues.
So what does this have to do with calling? Well, if one is down in the dumps and feeling like a bear wanting to hibernate it's hard to think about, much less do anything about our calling. What we have to do is take action to keep our momentum from the summer months. I have come up with some ideas to keep us upbeat and positive and therefore open to our calling.
Light Therapy - If, like me you think lack of light is a problem for you then build or buy yourself a light therapy box. There are many sources available on the Internet - just put SAD light therapy in your browser and go from there.
For Stress Relief - Use Breathing as a way to release the stress. Take a deep breath – in fact take 5-10 separate deep breaths and as you take each one hold it in to the count of ten and let it out slowly.
Meditate – People who meditate tend to be more positive/serene that those who don’t.
Re-Frame your situation – tell yourself “This too shall pass.” Or marshal evidence that your pessimistic thoughts are just that, you thinking the worst – re-frame it to you thinking the best.
Visualize what you really want in this situation – if you can, find a picture and post it near you with the new way you want things.
Distract yourself – go do something else – do a mindless chore or simply take a break - read a really good book that is uplifting or funny or that takes you to a better place.
Create a Joy Basket – put all kinds of things in it such as quotes that inspire you, books that are uplifting, a list of activities you like to do, some chocolate, a tea bag to remind yourself to make yourself a cup of tea. Pictures of loved ones or things that you love such as the ocean or the mountains or your favorite animal.
Go for a walk in nature.
Remember some good news even if it was a long time ago – try to get that feeling back when you did something you really loved doing or something special you accomplished.
Call a friend and ask them what good thing has happened to them lately – joy is contagious but so is negativity – no pity parties.
Go to a funny or romantic or action movie – go with a friend or go alone – enjoy your independence.
Wear a rubber band around your wrist and when you start the negative self talk snap it back – this will snap you back into your true self which is always positive and seeking authentic happiness.
Give thanks everyday for the good in your life – do the Three Blessings Exercise by writing down in a journal or little notebook what you felt blessed with that day.
Pay attention to your dreams and write down in a little notebook any ones that seem related to your calling.
Use the winter months to grow and heal. If you don't feel this is the time to actually answer your soul's call then begin a program to heal old wounds and clean out any psychic closets that are filled with oudated ideas, old beliefs that no longer work or anything esle that limits you.
Learn something new - as we did in our school years - something related to our calling. For example, since writing is my calling I am using this winter to learn everything I can about book publishing so that in the Spring when my book is finished I'll be ready for the next steps in the process.
With these ideas we can turn a potentially dark time into a time of light and energy, maybe not the same energy some of us have in Spring and Summer but productive energy none the less. Let me know how you do with these and if you have others you'd like to share, I'd love to learn about them.
Blessings, Lorraine
Thursday, September 11, 2008
The Sacred Connection Between Creativity and Your Soul
One of the most profound ways of knowing that you're in contact with your soul is through the act of creating something. This is why when we see a pregnant woman most of us feel a kind of reverence for her – we know that she is in a sacred state of creation. There is an aura around her that encourages a kind of amazement. She is living a soulful, spiritual and creative experience. When we see a great work of art such as Michael Angelo’s, David, most of us feel a sense of soul within that work too. When I watched the recent Opening Ceremonies of the Beijing Olympics I felt the hearts and souls of the thousands it took to put on that showcase of Chinese ingenuity. The creativity was awe-inspiring and I felt the collective soul of the Chinese people that night watching it
Now we don’t have to create an Olympic Opening Ceremony or sculpt a David or even have a baby to be creative and in touch with our souls. Everyone is creative by nature and with a little nurture can be even more so. Most of us are a lot more creative than we give ourselves credit for and therefore a lot more in touch with our souls than we may think. The act of creation is all around us – new ideas, new ways of doing things and new solutions to old problems are happening at the speed of light. Look around you and take note of all the creations you see. Then take a look at your own life and make pay attention to your own creations.
Any time you take raw materials, whether they are tangible or intangible, and make something new, you are being creative. Any time you solve a problem in a new way, you are being creative. Any time you plan an event and see it through to completion you are being creative. Anytime you change the way you think of something or someone and you have a different response, you are being creative. Any time you chose to do something you have not done before, you are being creative. Any time you take a risk, or choose to learn something new, you are being creative. And of course any time you create something of beauty such as a work of art, a piece of prose or poetry, a lovely decorated room, a delicious meal, a craft, a home or building, a garden or any number things in the traditional sense of art, you are being creative.
If you would like to be more creative – to access the creative aspect of your soul in a more conscious, more nurturing and direct way below are some tips to help you get started:
Take yourself on an Beauty Date - a specific time once a week where you go alone to see and experience something you consider beautiful and has the potential to ignite your creative soul
Ask yourself before you begin a project, even housework or some task in your job - how could I do this in a more creative way? How could I bring beauty to this endeavor?
Begin to use creativity when dealing with your relationships – whether children, spouses, friend or co-workers – ask yourself – how could I use creativity to make this situation come out better and more positively?
If you long to paint, sculpt, write, do crafts or build something – begin a process of allowing time for this in your life. Find others of like mind and connect with them.
Make note of your creative endeavors and creative solutions each night when you have dinner with your family or even just with yourself if you are single - ask the question – how was I/you creative today?
Begin a creativity journal where you write about your desire to be more creative. Pay attention to your dreams and record them in your journal and make note here where you are already doiing things in a creative way.
Remember, we are all creative by nature and simply need to listen and pay attention to our soul urges – once we do, all kinds of glorious and creative things begin to happen.
Now we don’t have to create an Olympic Opening Ceremony or sculpt a David or even have a baby to be creative and in touch with our souls. Everyone is creative by nature and with a little nurture can be even more so. Most of us are a lot more creative than we give ourselves credit for and therefore a lot more in touch with our souls than we may think. The act of creation is all around us – new ideas, new ways of doing things and new solutions to old problems are happening at the speed of light. Look around you and take note of all the creations you see. Then take a look at your own life and make pay attention to your own creations.
Any time you take raw materials, whether they are tangible or intangible, and make something new, you are being creative. Any time you solve a problem in a new way, you are being creative. Any time you plan an event and see it through to completion you are being creative. Anytime you change the way you think of something or someone and you have a different response, you are being creative. Any time you chose to do something you have not done before, you are being creative. Any time you take a risk, or choose to learn something new, you are being creative. And of course any time you create something of beauty such as a work of art, a piece of prose or poetry, a lovely decorated room, a delicious meal, a craft, a home or building, a garden or any number things in the traditional sense of art, you are being creative.
If you would like to be more creative – to access the creative aspect of your soul in a more conscious, more nurturing and direct way below are some tips to help you get started:
Take yourself on an Beauty Date - a specific time once a week where you go alone to see and experience something you consider beautiful and has the potential to ignite your creative soul
Ask yourself before you begin a project, even housework or some task in your job - how could I do this in a more creative way? How could I bring beauty to this endeavor?
Begin to use creativity when dealing with your relationships – whether children, spouses, friend or co-workers – ask yourself – how could I use creativity to make this situation come out better and more positively?
If you long to paint, sculpt, write, do crafts or build something – begin a process of allowing time for this in your life. Find others of like mind and connect with them.
Make note of your creative endeavors and creative solutions each night when you have dinner with your family or even just with yourself if you are single - ask the question – how was I/you creative today?
Begin a creativity journal where you write about your desire to be more creative. Pay attention to your dreams and record them in your journal and make note here where you are already doiing things in a creative way.
Remember, we are all creative by nature and simply need to listen and pay attention to our soul urges – once we do, all kinds of glorious and creative things begin to happen.
Monday, September 1, 2008
Cinema Self Exercise – A Romantic Movie
Here is a fun exercise to do today on this Labor Day Holiday. Describe yourself as you would be in a romantic movie. Answer the following questions and use as much imagery as possible. Use descriptive words and phrases. Make it fun!
What do you (Cinema Self) look like in the movie?
How old are you?
What is Cinema Self’s style or way of dressing?
What kind of car does Cinema Self drive?
Where does Cinema Self live?
Describe her home/apartment?
Describe Cinema Self in as much detail as possible
Who would play Cinema Self in the movie if this were a real movie?
Where does it take place?
Who is the romantic lead
What does he look like
What kind of work does he do?
What kind of car does he drive?
Who would play him if this were a real movie?
What makes him the romantic lead?
What else does Cinema Self do besides date the romantic lead?
Does she have other passions and what are they?
What kind of accomplishments is Cinema Self most proud of?
What do her friends in the movie always say about her?
What is she known for? What is her most famous line?
What do her friend say about the romantic lead?
What is his most famous line?
What is he known for?
What music would be played as backdrop to the movie?
Is there a theme song?
What happens in this movie? Describe the plot and how the plot is resolved? What does Cinema Self struggle with? What is the conflict between her and the romantic lead? How is this conflict resolved? What does Cinema Self learn in the end about love and relationships?
Name your movie and Post it on the Blog here and let's have some fun.
Blessings, Lorraine
What do you (Cinema Self) look like in the movie?
How old are you?
What is Cinema Self’s style or way of dressing?
What kind of car does Cinema Self drive?
Where does Cinema Self live?
Describe her home/apartment?
Describe Cinema Self in as much detail as possible
Who would play Cinema Self in the movie if this were a real movie?
Where does it take place?
Who is the romantic lead
What does he look like
What kind of work does he do?
What kind of car does he drive?
Who would play him if this were a real movie?
What makes him the romantic lead?
What else does Cinema Self do besides date the romantic lead?
Does she have other passions and what are they?
What kind of accomplishments is Cinema Self most proud of?
What do her friends in the movie always say about her?
What is she known for? What is her most famous line?
What do her friend say about the romantic lead?
What is his most famous line?
What is he known for?
What music would be played as backdrop to the movie?
Is there a theme song?
What happens in this movie? Describe the plot and how the plot is resolved? What does Cinema Self struggle with? What is the conflict between her and the romantic lead? How is this conflict resolved? What does Cinema Self learn in the end about love and relationships?
Name your movie and Post it on the Blog here and let's have some fun.
Blessings, Lorraine
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